You know – the one who goes out of their way to seek external approval and validation, avoid conflict, ease tension, and make sure everyone is happy?
That hits home, doesn’t it?
I created the Healing Codependency Course to help people like us understand what codependency is, why we may be codependent and how we can change it and move on to have a healthy sense of self so that we can live the life we were destined to live
Codependency is a pattern of learned behaviours we have adopted to help us feel safe. Over time, our codependency traits turn into an ADDICTION — one that takes work to heal from!
Reread that, please… codependency is a pattern of LEARNED behaviours — know that this is not your fault! You are not broken!
The presence of codependency is often a precursor for someone who finds themselves in a relationship with a narcissist. Once we fall into this pattern of behaviours, it can be hard to break — just like any other addiction.
It is not my intention for you to sit in a victim mentality in knowing this, but rather, to empower you to recognize the fact that you were victimized by the narcissist, who acted as the abuser, and you suffered trauma as a result.
Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we say to ourselves on a deep level in response to what has happened and what we have locked in our body.
THIS is what causes the dysregulation — and it means that the POWER to heal lies within YOU! Change is possible!
Codependency is a lack of “self”, meaning we don’t feel worthy, loveable, important or good enough and are ALWAYS looking for external approval and validation. Can you relate?
This often happens in childhood when we attach meaning and interpretation to events whether they be abuse, neglect, or a lack of attachment to our caregivers for various reasons. It can even be our own interpretation of an unemotional parent… it is a very personal experience and there is no right or wrong.
I was codependent in my own childhood. From a young age, I carried feelings about my lack of self-worth because whatever I did, my father never praised me — and my interpretation of this was that I was not good enough.
Now, of course, as a child, I WAS good enough. It was just my father parenting me — to the best of his ability based on what he learned from his childhood. I did not have the cognitive capacity to recognise this as a child, so the negative belief that got wired into my brain was “I AM NOT GOOD ENOUGH”. This resulted in somatic memory. Whenever someone would try and make me feel like I was not good enough, my body would physically react to that trauma!
This memory was stored in my body and anything that triggered it would take me back to those painful feelings, and encourage me to practice codependency to create a sense of safety and security for myself. This meant my blueprint became a people-pleasing, high-achieving perfectionist!!!
This then made me a magnet for toxic friendships and relationships and led me to marry a narcissist. Codependents and narcissists always seem to go hand in hand.
Enough of that. Now is the time to reclaim your true self and live the life you were destined to live.
This programme was created to help people like us understand what codependency is, why we may be codependent and how we can change it and move on to have a healthy sense of self so that we can live the life we were destined to live.
This course has been written with the complete beginner of their journey in mind. It is suitable for both those right at the start and those years down the line.
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