Trauma is not what happens to us, but what we say to ourselves on a deep level in response to what has happened and what we have locked in our body.
THIS is what causes the dysregulation — and it means that the POWER to heal lies within YOU! Change is possible!
Codependency is a lack of “self”, meaning we don’t feel worthy, loveable, important or good enough and are ALWAYS looking for external approval and validation. Can you relate?
This often happens in childhood when we attach meaning and interpretation to events whether they be abuse, neglect, or a lack of attachment to our caregivers for various reasons. It can even be our own interpretation of an unemotional parent… it is a very personal experience and there is no right or wrong.
I was codependent in my own childhood. From a young age, I carried feelings about my lack of self-worth because whatever I did, my father never praised me — and my interpretation of this was that I was not good enough.