Codependency is a pattern of learned behaviours we have adopted to help us feel safe. Over time, our codependency traits turn into an ADDICTION — one that takes work to heal from!
Reread that, please… codependency is a pattern of LEARNED behaviours — know that this is not your fault! You are not broken!

The presence of codependency is often a precursor for someone who finds themselves in a relationship with a narcissist. Once we fall into this pattern of behaviours, it can be hard to break — just like any other addiction.

It is not my intention for you to sit in a victim mentality in knowing this, but rather, to empower you to recognize the fact that you were victimized by the narcissist, who acted as the abuser, and you suffered trauma as a result.