When we talk about narcissism, we talk about the two main categories of narcissists – overt and covert narcissists. You know that person who walks into the room, has a sense of grandiosity and almost commands the attention? That’s an overt narcissist. But today I want to focus on the other type, the covert narcissist, and why I believe it’s the most dangerous type of narcissists.
What You Will Learn In This Episode:
- Why covert narcissists are difficult to recognise
- How to spot passive aggressive behaviour
- Self-criticism or shyness as possible traits of a covert narcissist
- The false sense of self and the childhood wounds of narcissists
- Why narcissists never seek a therapist
- Envy, jealousy and false empathy
- How covert narcissists present themselves as victims
- Focusing on yourself as the first step in healing from narcissistic abuse
So let me know – do you have a covert narcissist in your life? Can you relate to anything that I’ve covered in this episode?
So covert narcissism doesn’t just present obviously from a parent or a partner. It can be a friend or a co-worker, and it can make it really challenging because they are like the victims. So one of the best ways to start is stop looking at them, and really start to understand what a covert narcissist is. Other people believing the covert narcissist is no reflection of you. It just means what great manipulators they are. And we want to stop seeking other people’s approval, validation as to feel better. We need to go within, and we need to heal our own deep wounds of that lack of self-worth. Because again, when we heal that, you can zoom out from the situation. And of course it can feel frustrating, you know, I felt frustrated at the time, you know, they’re not believing me, they’re listening to him. But it’s not my place to get everybody else to understand what I’ve been through. This is my life. And I want to ensure I live my life to the best of my ability because I know I deserve to live an amazing life.